What is it about pregnancy that will make a grown man revert back to his teenage years? I love my husband dearly, but some days.......I'll just leave it at that....some days.
We're sitting on the couch tonight, and some commercial comes on for a video game and he says "I'm getting that".
Um, okay...wasn't this the same man last night that got on my case for looking at baby stuff....stuff we need for the baby...like o I dunno, a breast pump, and bottles, and a pack and play so we have a place for this kid to sleep in our room, and be on the same floor with us, and that will also make it easier to breast feed in the middle of the night. I kind of bring this up and he snaps back at me that we have plenty of time to get all that, and if he wants a game, he'll go buy a game. Okay. He's 15 years old again.
I recalled watching an episode of 16 and pregnant on MTV and one of the baby daddy's had gone out and purchased a gaming system, and pregnant teenage mama is about ready to kill the guy for having his priorities a little whacked out. Suddenly I felt like I was dealing with the same mentality. I don't get it.
I know women understand the whole baby/pregnancy thing a little more than most men...after all it is our body that becomes a science project...but seriously dude...you're almost 32....this is YOUR child too...do you think you can be a little more enthusiasticly involved than the 5 minutes that it took to create this kid?
Adam's exposure to babies and pregnancy is about nill. He has no idea what's happening in my body. He thinks I'm whining half the time when I feel like shit...'cuz ya know, I've always been a big whiner. One of his friends wife had a baby about a month ago, and when he invited everyone over this last weekend for the UFC fight, he didn't understand what his friend meant when he said that his wife was still really tired, so she wasn't going to come...she had the baby four weeks ago. I tried to explain to him that the kid doesn't just walk out, and all is well and your body goes back to normal. There's this healing thing that needs to occur and unfortunately that doesn't happen overnight. Then there's these things called hormones...and well, they're in control...and then you add a baby in that doesn't sleep at all through the night...and well...there you go.... exhaustion. If I didn't put the explanation of what placenta previa was in front of him he'd be completely oblivious to it.....and well, even after putting it in front of him...still pretty checked out on the whole thing and not seeming to understand what it could mean. I toss and turn half the night, and have to get up a gazillion times to pee...and he gets frustrated with me for disturbing his sleep. O boy...is he in for it when this kid arrives. The every 3 hour feedings are going to drive him out of his mind. I worry about my husband. He has no clue what is coming.
My ex husband had no clue either. Part of the reason he is my EX husband.
ReplyDeleteha ha! Adam won't ever be an ex-husband. He's wonderful. It's just hard to connect to early. He sees me growing, but can't see the baby move, or feel the baby move, so I think it's not quite real for him yet. The last ultrasound made it a little more real for him. I understand why he is a little disconnected. He's been great with me on bedrest. So helpful. Picking up all the slack with housework and the kids. I was being more sarcastic in this post...poor guy has no idea what he's in for with a newborn ;)
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